Happy Tuesday, friends!
Remember that night when I couldn't sleep and I kept thinking about the house that wouldn't sell? Well, it turns out that God was working on me that night as I tossed and turned, because I woke the next morning with the revelation that we needed to move back to that house and give it another chance.
David had mentioned this idea to me previously but I wasn't feeling it at the time, so we didn't pursue it. But apparently I just needed a little nudging from the Lord, because it was as clear as day the morning I woke up and realized that this was the plan going forward.
Like I mentioned, we experienced some trauma in that house from the very beginning and it was something that impacted our lives and made us cling to our faith like no other time in our marriage. It was scary.
At the time, the house felt too big and overwhelming, so we decided to downsize and move to the apartment and try to sell the house and mark that responsibility off the list. We felt like we needed a break from all the things a house requires and the apartment life sounded like the break we needed. And it has been.
Living here has been a great reprieve from the daily upkeep of a big house and piece of land. It's given us time to play, swim with our kids, rest and relax. It's almost been like a summer vacation...for about 5 months! And we needed it.
And here's what I want to say about that...it has not been a mistake. We do not regret one decision about moving here and renting this place, at all. It's been just the break we've needed and I'm so glad we took a chance and did something different, because now we know we can.
We did a scary thing, moved into an apartment, met people, went to the pool, walked to the community mailbox, met the dogs, met their people and lived in this community with a variety of new faces and families. It's been a great experience.
But now it's time to go home and see what the Lord has in store for us there.
And I wanted to share this with all of you because maybe you need a break from something traumatic. Maybe you need a change of scenery. Even for a short while. Sometimes the break - the in between - gives you the clarity you need, in order to move forward.
This apartment has been a reset for us. It's given us a break, but also new confidence, new vision and a renewed sense of purpose going forward.
We're walking into that house with a new excitement about what it can be while the Lord has us there, and we will hold it all very loosely, knowing that this life is an ongoing journey and when He says "go", we need to be willing and ready.
In the meantime...we feel rested and renewed.
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Here are some things we loved about living in the apartment:
*We loved having a pool.
*We loved having a small space to decorate and care for.
*We loved the convenience of living in town, closer to the kids.
*We loved the ease of getting to the stores and restaurants.
*We really loved that anytime we had a need...maintenance took care of it.
Things we didn't enjoy about this particular apartment:
Our view of the parking lot.
Next time we will carefully choose the view.
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Things we've learned since having our house on the market:
Choose a realtor that has good signs. This was a constant issue with the realtor we chose.
Her signs were dark blue and you couldn't even see it until you got right up on it.
When we asked her to put one at the end of the road, as well, it was about the size of a cereal box and was useless.
You would think this doesn't matter, but when you are actively looking for houses in a certain area, the first thing you notice are the For Sale signs. It matters. The signs need to be white and maybe some other colors (like Remax), but you have to be able to spot them from a distance.
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The second thing we learned this time around is that the realtor you choose isn't actually the one walking people through your house. Apparently a selling agent can't represent the buyer too. So you may choose a friend who sells houses, but that friend will only post ads and push the paperwork. They won't actually walk anyone through your home. It will be some random realtor who doesn't have any interest in your home, except the commission that comes with it. That's just the truth.
Oh and also...it actually costs a lot of money to sell your house and most of that goes to the agents.
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Well, I hope this post has enlightened you in some way. It's been a learning experience and one that I don't regret.
For the next two months we will be renovating the house and then moving back in after Christmas. (Instead of paying all that commission to the realtor, we now get to use that money to update the house). I'm excited to share that with you in the coming months. In the meantime, we will be enjoying the holidays in our cozy, little space here and savoring the last bit of our reprieve before diving back into yards and land and all the things.
Have a great week, my friends!
Until Next Time...
Blessings!
P.S. If you have any stories of "the time you did something different and new" please share 😀

It's good that God has given you the clarity and peace of mind to do this. It's taken courage to do what you've done!
ReplyDeleteThank you Mari! It's been an interesting adventure :)
DeleteHi friend! Thank you SO much for sharing this! You have no idea how much I needed to hear this on this morning! As you know I've struggled with going back to blogging and social media in general- and although my struggles aren't even close to being as big as a home- this hit me in the heart! I think I needed the rest and reprise! I'm still thinking of coming back to blogging, I just need to get my heart in the right place so I'll stop going back and forth being afraid and deleting it lol! But I wanted to let you know I'm still reading and thinking of you, and your post touched my heart today!
ReplyDeleteStacy, I absolutely get the back and forth with blogging and social media. I was even hesitant to write this, just because it's vulnerable sharing personal stuff online. Sometimes I'm good with it and sometimes I cringe at the thought. What we have to remember is that this online world is NOT a must or a requirement. It's just here for the enjoyment and that's only IF it brings enjoyment. If it doesn't, then dust your feet off and move on to things that do. But I'm glad you're still coming by to visit :) That's always a blessing.
DeleteThe Lord moves us in unexpected ways! I am glad you want to go back and give the house a chance. Get it the way you want, and look at it as a new adventure.
ReplyDeleteGod is never wrong! We just need to listen.
Cheryl, you're so right!
DeleteHello dear Debbie! So happy to hear that your open heart to the Lord has brought a new revelation. And such excitement and joy - that is awesome!! I look so forward to seeing where it will lead you and your new plans for this home chapter. I agree that there are important steps for being successful to sell your home. Now you can tuck those away for when needed....but it obviously wasn't meant to be for now! 🙏🏻💗
ReplyDeleteThanks Carrie :) We are excited too!
DeleteHope you didn't sign a lease, they're impossible to get out of. I had a month left on one and had to leave the country early, got stuck paying for it. Sometimes life changes seem like a good idea at the time, and end up a reminder that the familiar wasn't so bad after all. Sweetallysum.
ReplyDeleteWe do have to pay a termination fee, but we're still saving money in the long run.
DeleteGood for you! Not many people would be open to listening to the nudges they get from God.
ReplyDeleteKathy, we're always searching for his nudges :) It's the only way to do things.
DeleteI have enjoyed your home journey and appreciate you sharing these details. I have been waiting to see an update about the house selling. What a surprise that you are moving back in! It is a wonderful surprise and an exciting one! I look forward to reading more!
ReplyDeleteMrs. White, we are excited and ready to make it a home finally. Thanks for following along.
DeleteBlessings to you and your husband as you lean into the Lord as you navigate this newest journey. The Lord opens a door in his time. Thinking of you both.
ReplyDeleteI am so excited for y'all! God knows!
ReplyDeleteGrace & Peace,
Pam
I pray that as you return back to the house you will be met with a ton of blessings and joyful experiences. It's amazing how God works.
ReplyDeleteI'm so happy for you, friend! I think this is perfectly timed for you both. I wholeheartedly agree about stepping away from the traumatic; I think that's why I felt like I had to be out every night for so long. Now that I've healed more from the horrific process of a divorce and have made the home mine, I feel glad to be here again more often. So yes, this makes perfect sense to me! I'm so, so glad for you and David. I wish you the best in this fun journey! This kind of thing is right up your alley.
ReplyDeleteSometimes we have to jump out of the box to decide what is best. Yay for knowing your home is where you belong and where you long to be. As far as updates, walking back into an empty place may very well tell you what needs to change and what is "just right" as Goldilocks would say. Only change what matters to YOU!
ReplyDeleteLove that home! Glad you guys get to live in it again. All the decluttering you guys did with the move will make the move back easier. I SO need to do that! But taking care of my one year grandson makes it VERY hard. I’m not complaining I’m just explaining.😅. -Rosa R.
ReplyDeleteWell, I did not see that one coming. You certainly keep things moving (no pun intended!) and I love that you share what the Lord teaches you through each bend, turn (or even u-turn) in the road. You do sound excited...and I'm happy for you!
ReplyDeleteSounds like the Lord really wanted you to live in this house. Had you had a great realtor with ultra visible signs, it might have gotten sold and you would have missed out.
ReplyDeleteHello, lovely friend! I am all about this move! We are the age now we do what we want when the Good Lord asks us to! Happy for you!!!!!!!!!
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